“The moment you become aware of the ego in you, it is strictly no longer the ego but just an old, conditioned mind patter. Ego implies unawareness. Awareness and ego cannot coexist.” -Eckhart Tolle
Treat others how you want to be treated, but what happens when you aren’t treating yourself how you want to be treated? How many times have you picked up a task or hobby and never see through? It’s like a New Year resolution, you start off excited, spend tons of money and time researching to eventually let the goal die off. Why do we let these goals go so easily? We’ll see our greatness, and then our Ego will tear us down, with self deprecating humor or harsh critiques. You are comfortable and oh how your Ego doesn’t like change, because let’s face it being different is scary (when you care what other people think). So how do you quiet your Ego so you can make these changes you really want, but are too comfortable to move and get them?
Treat Yourself How You Want To Be Treated
The first step is being kinder to yourself! It’s natural for your Ego to go into self preservation mode and try to talk you out things. This is what leads to the subconscious literately stealing away your happiness. Realize that what you think or believe about yourself will tell us if we should believe in you too. You have to know you can do it before anyone else can! So take the time to speak lovingly to your body like you would a partner or friend. My favorite thing to do is when I am in the shower telling every part of my body thank you and why I am grateful for it. Listen to affirmations or motivation music when you are getting ready in the morning this will reprogram you subconscious, and start your day off right!
Procrastination Is Self Doubt
When we procrastinate not only does it cause an immense amount stress, it also feeds our Ego the self doubting energy it needs to keep you in your comfort zone. When we put tasks off it’s usually because our Ego convinces us that something more important takes precedence. Quiet your Ego by taking baby steps, write a plan of action, then start breaking down your goal into small more attainable ones. Keep the end result in mind, but don’t focus on getting there by tomorrow. Looking at the big picture can sometimes cause pressure making us feel like we need it right now (we LOVE instant gratification), relax and enjoy what you can do in the moment to build on your goal. The more work you put into it the more you will cherish and be grateful for the end results.
Apples To Oranges
Enjoying where you are now in your journey will simplify your needs and help calm that Ego. I know it is hard, how can you not compare yourself to everyone when that is what we are surrounded with. Moms compare their children to others, Partners compare relationship, and friendships are always compared. Most of our comparing comes from social media (read my post Hiatus In Your Healing to see how to reduce comparing through social media) but we often compare and judge ourselves even to our friends. Take a moment to think about what you have now, you have internet to read this post while there are some people who don’t even have electricity. Seeing what someone else possesses and you don’t is comfort food to the Ego, its weakness is good old comparison. You have to tell your Ego that what you have is enough and when the time and effort is right those things will come.
Finishing your goals is the key to your happiness and the Ego will try to keep you stagnant in life. It’s self preservation skills have been working since the day you were born keeping you comfortable. You are so deserving of everything in life and if you think you aren’t that just your Ego talking. So if you want to change, you have to change your attitude, and to change your attitude you must quiet your ego.
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